Have I ever mentioned that I hated dating?

I was lucky to meet my wife as soon as I did, because I just wasn’t cut out for the dating scene, especially first dates.

But guess what? Recording music is surprisingly similar to a first date.

(Especially if you’re just starting out.)

Let me show you how.

#1. You’re constantly second-guessing your every move, paranoid that you’ll ruin everything.

You can be so worried about getting a great-sounding mix that you inevitably become paralyzed. You can’t decide if mix #47 sounds as good as mix #13, so you obsess over it endlessly.

#2. You listen to bad advice.

“If you open the car door for her, and she the unlocks YOUR door while you’re walking around, then you know she’s the One.”


It’s the same for home studio folks. You take advice from some random dude in a forum rather than using your brain to try things for yourself.

#3. You put way too much pressure on yourself.

News Flash: The first date doesn’t make that big of a difference. You won’t lose your soul mate forever because you weren’t the perfect date.

It’s the same in the studio. Your mixes aren’t ruined forever if they have some imperfections. (In fact, I’d argue that those imperfections are sometimes the best parts of a mix.)

#4. You spend a lot of money, thinking that it will make a difference.

Look, she ain’t gonna marry you just because you dropped 200 bucks on a lobster dinner.

And whatever shiny piece of gear you’re about to buy won’t make your recordings instantly amazing.

It just doesn’t work that way.

If you want to get better results in the studio, you’ve gotta spend time “getting to know” the basics of audio.

That’s why I created Understanding EQ, to debunk a lot of myths and teach you a proven, simple method for getting better-sounding mixes.

Now dry those sweaty palms and click on over to:


Joe Gilder
Home Studio Corner

3 Responses to “4 Ways Recording Music is Like a First Date”

  1. Michael

    #1. Been there, done that.
    – I think this is true especially when first getting into mixing your own recordings. But I’ve also known guys that were 8 years into mixing their first album; what a waste!. As you mature in mixing you will get to the place of trusting yourself, and liking the results.

    #2. Been there, done that.
    – And wound up undoing everything I did because of that persons advice. Trust your instinct with your music, the song will tell you what it needs.

    #3. Been there, done that.
    – One day my wife said “perfect imperfection” in regard to something other than music; but it stuck in my head and I actually still keep this in mind when recording. Are there imperfections in my recordings? Yep. But as Joe says, “those…are sometimes the best parts…”.

    #4. Been there, done that.
    – My recording set up is the most basic it’s ever been, and I love it. Getting back to the basics – putting aside all the fancy expensive plugins/outboard gear – has made recording more enjoyable. I’ve had time to get to know the few plugins I’m using now so I make better use of them.

  2. Damian

    I was really thinking one similarity would be “You try some old proven techniques mixed in with some new, and hope you get lucky.” No? Oh well…


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