I’ve been debating telling you about this…

But I think there’s a valuable lesson here.

A few weeks ago in one of my daily emails, I mentioned that I sang in a friend’s wedding.

One guy replied to that email and essentially said, “No offense, but why would anyone hire you to sing in their wedding? You’re not a good singer.”

I replied to him that my dear friend Ben asked me to sing. I assume he likes my voice. Then I wrote:

“…but that’s the great thing about music, it’s a very subjective thing. Not everyone likes the Beatles or Justin Bieber, but there are a lot of people who do, and nobody’s wrong. :)”

Yes, there are many absolutes in the world…but not when it comes to music.

Perhaps you’ve received negative feedback like this email. If not, if you stick around this home recording thing long enough, you will.

The key is to remember that this stuff is subjective. Not everyone will like everything you do. But there will be some people who like it. Those are the people you cater to, not the naysayers.

For example, every month I put one of my mixes on display and ask hundreds of people to critique it. Some months they love it. Some months they don’t.

Sure, I’d rather they loved it every time, but that’s not reality.

The truth is, I usually like my mix whether they like it or not. And I ALWAYS get new ideas from their feedback.

And so can you…

That’s what happens every month over at Dueling Mixes.

This month happens to be a month where people are liking Graham’s mix better than mine. But guess what?

There are still plenty of people who like my mix.

So if you’re ready to dive into the fray, critique my mix, and crank out a mix of your own, click here:

www.DuelingMixes.com

Joe Gilder
Home Studio Corner

P.S. Please don’t feel like you need to reply to this email. I’m not fishing for compliments here. Just thought it was a teachable moment for both you and me.

 

 

  • Bruce Johnson

    Pretty gutsy post today, Joe. Your candor is always appreciated. You may not be fishing for compliments, but your voice is excellent. Take it from a croaker who wishes he were Paul Rodgers.

    • wolsch

      oooohhhhh, Paul Rodgers, my favorite rock singer, too. Sad that many think he is the worse copy of Freddy Mercury who could have never replaced Paul Rodger as Free´s lead singer, since he was limited to that particular kind of gay rock presented by Queen. Nomen est omen.

      And, since we cannot be blamed to speak for ourselves we can give a clear statement: Anyone who says Joe cannot sing is an idiot.