My wife Pam knew this family growing up. They’re a sweet family…with on weird quirk.

They ignore farts.

Pam remembers sitting at the dinner table with them, and someone would let one rip.

And? … Nothing.

No one even cracked a smile. No response.

That reminds me of something that happened over Thanksgiving. We were at my parents’ house, and I decided to play a few samples of a some mixes from my upcoming album. I plugged my iPhone into the stereo and played snippets of two songs.

And? … Nothing.

They just kept playing with the kids.

Like a fart at the oddball family dinner table, they ignored me.

All joking aside, I bet this is a common problem for lots of us musicians. We slave away, pouring ourselves into our music, only to be ignored?

I told this story to one guy who does hip-hop music. He said for him people will listen and then say, “That’s pretty good for a white guy!”


Making music in the home studio can be a lonely world. The truth is, your friends and family like music, but they just don’t listen to it the same way you and I listen to it.

And they definitely don’t recognize the amount of effort we put into making the music.

Moral of the story?

I dunno.

Here are a few:

Make music because YOU want to make it, not because you crave recognition.

Find other musicians with whom you can share your music (who actually care about music and will give you feedback).

Make your music interesting to the non-musicians. (If I can get my wife to dance to one of my songs, I consider that a win.)

’Tis all for today.

Go make some music!

Joe Gilder
Home Studio Corner

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