I can be a real jerk sometimes.

While I am not super excited about sharing this fact with you, I think there is an important lesson for you and me to learn.

Over the last month or so, I’ve had a handful of interactions with both customers and subscribers, where I got angry and was rude. The thing I am learning is that I regularly forget why I do what I do. I forget why I started Home Studio Corner. I forget why I love making music and helping other people make music. I can get so caught up in what I want, or what I think I deserve, that I can completely disregard the needs of others.

Now, you may think I am about to tell you that you need to agree with everyone who criticizes you, and cater to everyone who wants you to do something for them.

That is not what I am saying.

I can’t grant every request made of me. I simply don’t have enough hours in the day. But what I can do is treat every one of those people with respect.

I have had plenty of people criticize me and my work. They will criticize everything from how I phrase things, to the topics of my daily e-mails, to the fact that I sell information products, sometimes at a high price. Even if I disagree 100% with those people, it is never right for me to fly off the handle and treat them with disrespect.

I personally feel that I am called to love people and treat them well.

I haven’t done a very good job of that lately, and it something that I want to focus on and change.

How does this apply to you and your music?

I don’t know, maybe it doesn’t.

But if you are anything like me, chances are you work with musicians and clients who sometimes annoy you. Perhaps they try to take advantage of you, or maybe they don’t keep commitments to you.

Any of these things can be insanely frustrating.

Let me encourage you that it is okay to be angry and frustrated, but try to treat them with respect anyway. Treat them how you would want to be treated, and things will turn out much better.

And hey, if you find yourself interacting with clients who want you to make changes to the mix, but you’re not quite sure how to make those changes, maybe all you need to mix a few songs alongside a few experienced mix engineers. You’ll learn from your own mixes AND from their mixes.

That’s what DM is all about. Join here:


Joe Gilder
Home Studio Corner