As I type this, I’m sitting at Panera Bread. Out the window in front of me is a young couple, probably 14 years old or so.

They’re obviously dating, and I can tell by how awkward they are. 🙂

They stand REALLY close to each other, but they hardly ever make eye contact. They’re constantly fidgeting. They just seem uncomfortable inside their own bodies.

Perhaps that’s just adolescence, but it’s still humorous. It reminds me of myself at that age. Talk about AKWARD…

Anyway, before you write me off as some creeper who goes to restaurants to stare at kids (I wasn’t staring. I just happened to notice them…and their awkwardness was that obvious.), hear me out. Chances are that if you’re reading this you are much older and wiser. Hopefully your awkward years are behind you…but then you sit down in your studio for a session with a client. 🙂

When you’re by yourself, everything’s fine. But when you’re new to recording and you first start working with other musicians, you can feel like an awkward 14-year-old with acne and braces, fumbling to just “be cool” in front of the cute girl.

It automatically takes you 18 times as long to do simple tasks within your software. You struggle to find cables, to remember basic things like turning on phantom power and setting your inputs correctly. Your mind is in a tizzy. You want everything to go so smoothly.

I. Can. Relate.

I still get that way sometimes when I’m working with a new client or in an unfamiliar studio. Nobody likes to be embarrassed, right? So you try to get your act together and impress people.

The problem is that it takes time to get really comfortable in your studio. It takes lots of repetition to get to the point where running a session is second-nature to you, where you can actually relax and enjoy the process.

Do you want to know what really helped me become more comfortable? Spending a lot of time in my studio actually working on something. It’s amazing how we can spend hours in our studios without actually doing anything. Then when it comes time to record someone else, we feel rushed and awkward…and we wonder why.

It all comes back to experience. The more time you spend with someone, the less awkward things get. It’s the same in the studio.

If you want to learn how I overcame my “fear” of EQ (and in turn became a much more confident mixer), check out: